Feeling Off Even After You’re ‘Cleared’? You’re Not Alone
So, you’re cleared. You rang the bell. You made it through the appointments, the treatment, the scans, the tests. Everyone is so relieved. You're a survivor now. 🎉
But… why does it still feel so weird?
If you’ve felt this way, just know—me too. And I hear this from so many survivors I talk to.
The Aftershock No One Prepares You For
Here’s the part that nobody talks about enough: what happens after you’re done with treatment. That “now what?” moment can feel disorienting, emotional, and honestly—kind of lonely.
You might feel:
Off in your own body and don’t know why (besides the obvious treatment side effects)
Like your friends and family are moving on but you’re stuck
Disconnected from what used to feel normal
Afraid to say out loud, “I don’t feel okay.”
And if you’ve had any of those feelings? You’re completely, 100% normal.
So many of us go through this quiet aftershock—when the doctors stop calling, the casseroles stop coming, and everyone else thinks you’re “back to your old self”… but you know better.
You’re changed. You’ve been through something big. You might even feel like a stranger in your own life. Breast cancer is traumatic!
5 Ways to Gently Move Through This Space
Here are a few things that helped me and the women I work with. No pressure. No perfection. Just small, kind steps you can take to feel a little more grounded again.
1. Say it out loud—even if it’s just to yourself
You’re allowed to say, “This is hard.” Or “I feel lost.” Or “I thought I’d feel better by now.”
We don’t need to sugarcoat it. You don’t need to be the “inspirational survivor” every second of the day. You get to be human. We often put a brave face on for our partners, kids, family and friends so THEY don’t worry. It makes sense we can feel this way.
Try this:
Write down the sentence: “Right now, I feel…”
Then just fill in the blank, no judgment. Write until you feel a release. That’s a great, simple place to start.
2. Find little ways to reconnect with your body & calm your nervous system
Look, your body has been through it. And maybe you feel disconnected from it, angry at it or even like it let you down. That’s okay. Rebuilding trust doesn’t happen overnight.
What helped me:
Putting one hand on my heart and one hand on my belly and just breathing for a few seconds
Taking short walks without any pressure. Look up at the sky, look down at the ground. Look at the leaves, feel the sun on your skin, feel the breeze. Use all of your senses on a 15 minute walk.
Eating something nourishing (even if it’s just a smoothie) and thanking my body for all it has done for me (we had a complicated relationship after my treatment was over, but my body did see me through)
These tiny things? They add up.
3. Create a small ritual that feels like yours
During treatment, you had a schedule. A plan. And then… nothing. It can feel like you’ve been dropped into the middle of your life without a map.
A little daily ritual can help you feel safe and steady again. Light a candle. Sit with a cup of tea in silence. Stretch. Journal. Whatever feels calming—not one more thing on your to-do list.
Healing happens in the quiet moments.
4. Talk to someone who truly gets it
As much as your people love you, they may not fully understand what you’re going through. And that can make you feel even more isolated. If one more person told me I “should” feel happy or grateful I felt like I was going to burst! Where are my people that understood???
You deserve to talk to someone who doesn’t need the whole backstory—someone who just gets it.
This might be:
Another survivor
A trusted therapist or coach
A support group
Or even a podcast or book that makes you go, “Oh wow. Same.”
Feeling understood is healing all by itself.
5. Consider getting a little guidance
Sometimes we just need someone to help us put the pieces back together—a gentle guide to say, “You’re doing better than you think” and “Here’s a small next step.”
That’s part of why I do the work I do now. Not because I have all the answers—but because I’ve been through the fog, and I know how comforting it is to not walk through it alone.
If you ever feel ready, I’d love to walk with you.
You’re Still Healing—and That’s Okay
So if you’re feeling off, lost, unsure, or even a little scared… I see you. You’re not doing it wrong. You’re just in a space that hasn’t been talked about enough.
Your breast cancer journey was just one chapter - not the whole book. There is an entirely vibrant, full and joyful life “after the pink” chapter.
Want a simple place to start?
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Big hug,
Kara 💗
